Combat fear by developing self-confidence

Here are few guidelines:


1. Emphasize your strengths. Focus on what it is that you are capable of achieving and praise yourself for your strength and your struggle than focusing on the results. Beginning on a foundation of things that you are capable rather than what should you be doing will help you live and work within your limitations.


2. Talk to yourself. Examine yourself and practice how to handle situations as well as counter negative ones. Know when to stop when you catch yourself in a negative assumption.


For instance, when you find yourself demanding perfection, tell yourself that everything can not result perfectly. This will allow you to believe in yourself at the same time that you are striving to get better.


3. Evaluate yourself. Practice how to independently evaluate yourself. This will let you avoid the persistent sense of confusion that results when you are relying completely on the opinions and judgment of others.


4. Take those risks. When you face and accept experiences as instruments for learning than possibilities to lose or win, new opportunities can be unlocked and this can develop your self awareness and acceptance.


Remember, self-confidence can be developed, not inherited; and fear can be overcome because you have the trust and the faith in yourself to do so.

Here are some factors that contribute to one’s fear:

1.  When we feel separated, fear increases.  A fact is that one does not fear those he is familiar with (people and surroundings).  Fear arises when there is a certain feeling of estrangement, which exhibits overall sense or impression of suspicion.

2.  Attachment to individuals as well as material things associated with one’s
security cause one to fear that one might loose them, so one will do everything
in order to protect one’s relationships, possessions or his self-image.

3.  Strange surroundings and unfamiliar people bring about fear. Unfamiliar
situations threat one’s security and usually one reacts with extreme caution and
at times, defensive behavior.

4.  One’s negative memory of past experiences where one had either suffered or
witnessed loss, harm or death aggravates fear. The subconscious retains memories of the past and at certain circumstances, these are ignited.

5. Imagination at times can create or invent images of trouble, suffering or pain
outside physical truth or reality.  Note that Imagination is never negative,
however when misused and abused, it can bring so much fear in oneself.